Shame Shifting Circles

I tried to shove it under the rug and hope it would go away.  I was so terrified that my shameful secrets would be discovered.

I wish I had known that I possessed all the power.  I wish I had known that all I had to do was own my choices and stand in my truth, be vulnerable and honest and apologize where needed.

The thing is, when shame is buried, it has nowhere to go. It will either slowly poison you over the years by reducing joy and expanding anxiety and fear, or it will detonate and blow everything up when it surfaces.

For a long time, I chose to believe that burying my shame was my only option. These last 3 decades have taught me for certain, that the only way forward is to share your shame in a safe container, either one on one or in a safely held circle.

My final wake up call, proving the absolute destructive power of the ignored shadow, occurred four years ago. I had left my 20 year relationship, and was on my deep healing path. And during this time, I did something that brought me an immense amount of shame.  I had thought I was operating in full consciousness, and yet I was still deceiving myself. A situation arose that was beyond my imagining, a pure example of what happens when we continue to ignore our shadow and bury our shame.  When the issue came to light, there was a moment when all my decades of shame came flooding back to me.  I wasn’t sure how I would not drown from it, since I knew I was the one that had created this awful situation.

So, what helped me?

How did I get through this?

What saved me, was being held in a safe space to name the situation and my shame.

A safe place to process the decisions I had made, and the steps I was taking to own it.  A safe place to be held in my worthiness, and because of this I did not crumble. This was my moment to grow and expand.

When the shadow self is ignored, the situations created unconsciously, get bigger and bigger. More and more is at stake to try to help you wake up.

This was my final wake up call to the magnitude of my shadow.  I honour my shadow so fully now. I love it so much, and I have brought it into my Light. I am so grateful for the support I had when I was feeling the threat of being pulled under by shame.

I am now that support for you. Whether you want to join my shame-shifting circle or meet me one-on-one, I am here for you.  My mission is to hold space for you to clear the shame and rise. It is amazing how simple yet potent it is.  It will truly set your soul free. 

Join me, I’ll go first.